My
nephew had a girlfriend for about a month, then they broke it off.
He's 23, so he shouldn't just now be having his first girlfriend, but
the boy has lived a sheltered life. I was telling Austin about it.
BTW, my sister, brother-in-law and nephew are ridiculously religious.
Austin: Why did they break up?
Me:
She's had premarital sex.
Austin:
Well, of course. She's 29.
Me:
Yes. And my nephew said he was OK with that as long as she was sorry
for her actions. And of course, she's not sorry.
Austin,
dumbfounded.
Me:
He intends to wait until he's married to have sex.
Austin:
But—but sex is so wonderful. And what if your partner is awful?
Me:
Most couples don't think sex is that big of a part of their
relationship.
Austin:
Well, yeah, that's true. But still, you want to know if you're
sexually compatible. I mean, I can't imagine waiting till marriage. I
mean, that's just ridiculous.
Me:
Most people aren't in a relationship for six years before getting
married.
Austin:
But still. I mean, the first time really sucked and you're always
going to be nervous and horrible your first time and really the first
three or four times, but then you can start to figure things out. And
what if it's horrible? What if you're stuck in a marriage for the
rest of your life with someone who's bad at sex?
Honestly,
sometimes I don't know what to say to him.
